I can understand your perception but what is "smart" may not have anything to do with the emotion.For example someone who smokes cigarettes may well be aware that its dangerous in the long term but how that cigarette makes them feel may be more important to them.
Forgot to wake up and smell the coffee ,so to speak, Should have seen it coming? somtimes one person thinks they are ready for a realtionship and then find they are not. somtimes the stresss of outside things kill a realtionship. there are multitude of reasons why realtionships end and people walk away. Unless they see you've moved on, then they get all jealous and stalky.
Too many un-answered questions, Didn't smell the rat, Action speakes louder than words. but if you had at truly one time cared about that person you should tell them why the realtionship is over and put finality to it. In my opinion the person who wants closure is not ready to walk away and most likely is blindsided by the ending of the relationship.
It is not detrimental to a person moving on if someone else can not let go, you will and can move on whether they hang around or not, it is your life.
In fact its detrimental to the party that wont move on, while the person moving on is doing something new, the one who can not move on is still hanging on to that one thing/moment but again I feel its about making the distinction between what has happened and how you feel it about it. Walking away is a person making their own decision.
I'd want some proof from you that's what occurred in all or any of your break ups but I'm somehow doubting I'd get it.
At the very least, I'm sure those who state they don't ask a question at all would have asked, "Is there someone else?
Apt or not, Oprah-babble or not, I'm glad for the word "closure" to describe my wish to mark in my mind when something began, or ended pointlessly, or ended so that something else could begin.
I think it's part of why so many of us keep our rituals of funerals, bachelorette parties & the like." I do know that when I did split with my ex that we both gave our reasons for why it should be over.
I can see where you could learn something helpful but unless you want to change or can change, the learning probably isn't going to be all that helpful and in many cases could damage your self-esteem. __________________________________In regards to the closure..... There is not one person on this site, who is so devoid of simple human traits, that if they were in a long term relationship, and loved the person, and said person randomly walked out on them, would not be curious as to why. Of course the smartest thing would be to "walk away with your head held high" but, depending on your support network and what else is going on in your life, this can hit some people harder.