If they aren't taking care of their own family (their mother and father), they are expected to be preparing through college and a career, to take care of their own wife and children one day.Women, traditionally, are seen as more of a help at home with mom and dad, and are not expected in the same way that men are, to leave the nest.
If He Wants to Get to Home Base With You, His Home Base Better Be His Own: Don't make his home base okay for you.
If he's living at home and wants to invite you to his parents house as if it's truly his own, take three steps backwards -- and then run.
Dear April Masini," I met a great guy -- but he lives with his parents. I need some advice on what to do when the man you think you could fall in love with still lives with his parents.
Signed, Rolling With The Home Boys "Now that the internet has made the girl next door (or the boy next door) one of about a million boys and girls who are only an IM away, there are SOOOOOO many different options for people who date. There are men and women who are widows and widowers.
You're here for now, but not for the long run as long as he's at mom and dad's.
The second you make out with him or sleep with him in his parents house, you've set a precedent. If you stick to your guns and let him know that he's great, the situation, however, is not, then you're less likely to get stuck in a rut where you like him, you're sleeping with him, you have feelings with him, and you hate the situation, but it's hard to get out of.
Give Yourself a Limit: It's really easy to put ultimatums on him.
Believe me, he's had a lot more than your ultimatum on his plate.
So what do you do when you meet someone -- either in real life or on the internet -- who looks great on paper, so to speak, but their mailing address is in care of mom and dad? Lots of people have valid reasons for living at their folks' home.