If she seems unsure of what to order, offer to order a couple of things to share.
Filled with awkward pauses, off-limits topics, and the pressure to impress someone you barely know, first dates are tricky.
But there are a few shortcuts to success in this area, according to restaurant manager Talia Berman, whose profession has given her a front-row seat to watching first dates fall short and fly high for years.
Want to learn from other guys' restaurant-date mistakes? But if you've spoken at all before the date, you should have noted any details she mentioned about herself; be sure to brush up on them before the date. Pull out a chair, open a door, let her order first–these old-school moves go a long way.
Follow Talia's tips on how to secure an easy win the first time around. It shows that you were thoughtful enough to spend more than the five minutes before you saw her to plan the date. If you ask her where she's from, even though she already told you on the phone, it might seem like you're dating too many women, or just aren't attentive. But more importantly, pay attention to her experience–this is what chivalry is all about these days.
This is the 20th one I’ve read online this week.” I’m right there with you.
And that alone doesn’t always ensure successful romantic connections. So let’s talk about some actually useful tips for a first date. As you get physically closer to someone, it feels more and more intimate for the both of you.
Also important: wear something appropriate that makes sense for the location.
Take off your coat or hat, otherwise it will look like you don't plan to stay very long.
Then make a joke that acknowledges the weirdness ("Full disclosure: I changed three times! (If he honks from your driveway, wave him in for just a minute while you grab your purse and jacket.)Your instinct may be to ask a bunch of questions to get him to open up, but that can feel like a college admissions interview.
Instead keep the convo moving by making funny observations.
Then you get to do the dirty work of asking the server for something else, and she gets to admire your assertiveness. Make a good impression Focusing on her is important, but don't forget that So be your best self: Tip well, fold your napkin, and be nice to the staff wherever you dine.