Once you’re IMing a girl and you’re really into a back-and-forth conversation she’s enjoying, going sexual is fine. (I have copy-and-paste copies of real IM conversations in my ebooks as examples.) What I’m talking about is you getting sexual over the dating site’s . (Frankly, if you’re getting sexual over messages, you’re likely doing it way too soon in the interaction anyway.) 3. If you only get one thing out of this article, the 24/24 Rule should be it.This is the absolute, sure-fire way to be able to send out lots of openers without ever going over a site’s opener limits or getting banned.
As you might expect, the sites are only too happy to ban too-sexual men.
Remember, the dating sites have a surplus of men, but not enough women.
Let’s say you send out openers it’s between 6pm and pm.
The next evening you simply don’t send any openers until pm.
The worst I ever got with that was a line I stole from Neil Struass about how I’m “old enough to do it right and young enough to do it often”, but even that line I haven’t used in years. If you want to get sexual in your profile, then use language that subtly implies it rather than saying it straight out. However, if you want to never worry about getting banned, just keep the sexual stuff for the first dates, and not on the profile. Don’t get too overtly sexual in your online dating messages to women.
This one should be obvious but a lot of guys still blow this one, often on purpose.
Instead of trying to guess each sites limit, just follow the 24/24 Rule. I have carefully tested this on just about every major (American) dating site you can think of, and 100% of my messages get through to their targets and I never have a problem.
From now on, when you send openers, note the time when you do it.
So you send another 24 openers at pm, then the following evening you send another 24 openers at 7pm, and so on. You could send 24 openers on OKCupid, another 24 on Match.com, and if you don’t mind the negatives of POF, send yet another 24 there. Do a “copy-and-paste customize” inside each opener you send.